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Naturally Unnatural

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I wonder how man would behave in the ‘state of nature’ so to speak. Although different political scientists and anthropologists and sociologists have had their own take on this, what do you think, dear reader?
How do people behave behind closed doors; in isolation; or in a truly free state; and even then, with everything the social norms have fed us about being civil, does one’s conscience allow one to be truly true to their own truth?

In a world where a healthy discussion on emotions is considered a topic to be allayed or talked about in hushed tones, sometimes dismissed, and thus completely ignored, thereby perpetuating it’s continuance and in most cases, growth; where everyone is always perceived to be ‘great’, ‘good’ and of course, ‘awesome’ – leaving an insular cage for the ones who aren’t ‘great’, ‘good’ or ‘awesome’, one stops to ask, were we really made to be this way?

Does being civilized mean controlling natural emotions; repressing and submerging the inner waves of turmoil that surface from time to time, and then when it naturally floods out, to be labeled unstable, sad and forlorn? And is expressing both highs and lows more vividly and wildly, more truthfully and more primitively – with every extolling moment lived ecstatically and every exacting one in ennui, perceived as uncivil, unnatural? Are people always “supposed to” be a certain way?
What are the boundaries? Where do the oceans part? What marks the distinction between natural and unnatural, civilized and uncivilized?

Today it feels like every facade and every repression is in the name of civilization… so much so that being civil has become akin to being unnatural. No wonder the societies that are more dominant and dictatorial are witness to the most violent rebellions. No wonder the people with the most civil guise are privy to that nagging civil strife within their being.

The more we repress our natural instincts outwardly, the more they affect us inwardly – sleepless nights, nightmares, clenched fists while sleeping – all signs of repressed emotion… Why else would there be so many diseases in the world today?

If only we could cast away the fear and be free from such beliefs, wouldn’t that be true civilization? If only we could let go, let down our hair once in a while – without guilt, mind you – and romp away to glory or have a ball when we wanted to instead of being constrained by judgments, and the fear of the dreaded he-said, she-said- wouldn’t that be natural and raw and pure and beautiful? If only we didn’t consider it wrong and unacceptable to ‘stop and smell the roses’ in this rat race, wouldn’t that be true freedom?
In our hearts and in our core, we all come from a place of love and goodness, which is distorted and contorted to conform to the rules that suit the powers that be- whether at home, or in the workplace, or in life, in general. We need to break free from these banal, barricading beliefs that we succumb to in the course of action, and truly listen to our natural instincts.

Life isn’t as complicated as we make it. Loving isn’t weakness, caring isn’t baggage, sadness isn’t depression, boredom isn’t a disease, a happy person isn’t necessarily childlike or carefree, a tranquil person isn’t always indifferent. Everything, every emotion, does not require a label. You can be what you want to be without reading too much into it. Everything is fleeting and temporary and susceptible to change. And so are you and your feelings. Be unafraid of being unafraid.

And remember, sometimes, it’s okay to laugh with abandon, to cry in pain, to pat your back, and to not care.

Sometimes, it’s okay to just breathe.

© Isha Garg

Doodle by Isha Garg

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111 thoughts on “Naturally Unnatural”

  1. We need not need to be accepted by everyone. Being ourselves is exactly what we were meant to be. That is one of the great lessons of life. I understand all the conflicting social standards but choose to listen to who I am. From your bio I believe you are the same and are artistically expressing the thoughts of a generation. That’s my perception.

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  2. I love this post of yours…..It is true that we have actually stopped breathing.We just live but aren’t really alive.We lie, to ourselves and to other people, and in the all that pretense we forget who we actually are!

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  3. Your words are moving and should be a tonic for many. With me, you must sense you are preaching to the converted… as they say! I have not been one to conform to rules; and have been blessed with an open minded family and close friends. I allow myself to be all the colours of the rainbow as my moods dictate.
    Let your hair down more than once in a while, dear lady. I shall be nearby to gasp and cheer as you do! 😊🌷

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      1. Isha… this is exactly how I feel about my poetry. Crude and spoken with a child’s hopeful soul. But so emotive.
        I see the same in your doodles. The lines are thin but constructed with feeling and beauty. I understand them.

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      2. They have a way of making me smile so much more than an over processed image from an online source. Toddler-esque if you say so, but whimsical and drew me to you from the first glimpse fair lady!

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      3. Wow! Methinks you are deserving of morning, afternoon and evening compliments then! Such words and appreciation are mutually beneficial -the value of a gift is to giver and receiver! 😌💟💟

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      4. Oh but you are sweet – who taught you to be this way? No, this cannot be taught, this is your natural way of being and it’s beyond beautiful. 😌💕
        To my sunshine you are the petite buds of spring waiting to emerge…. 🌱🌱☀️

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      5. I think we are showing obsessive emoticon tendencies. Hehe. Laughing all the way into Morpheus’ embrace 😌 💤
        For you => ♥️♥️♥️
        And 💟 with a 😻

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  4. Do you think people are prepared to conduct such a social experiment? On a grand level? And by whom would we dare erect boundaries? Religion has taken on the task and people never stay within their box. A few do and that is good. For those courageous to cross, best not to work so hard and change society. I for one enjoy being an outsider.

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  5. That is definitely food for thought, Jeanne! I think the thing that would work best, and in everyone’s favour, is to stop trying to “change” society… No one has the right to change anyone… Live and let live as they say. The change lies in learning not to change others..

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  6. What a beautiful post! It seems that everything must pass the politically correct test. I wish I had the answers Isha, but I don’t. Perhaps your post and the wisdom it contains will convince people. Well done! ☺💛

    contain9o

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  7. Thought provoking post..and so well written. There will and always have been acceptable rules of behaviour in human interaction, one has a choice of adhering to them or be a pariah.
    On the other hand, I don’t believe norms be it social, ethical, religious to name a few play a part when you are alone and communicate with your conscience. Being more objective, you are the most primitive and therefore the purest form of conscience that exists.

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    1. Thank you for your insight, ESP xtruck… I understand what you mean, although sometimes I do wonder, what if these norms sink in so deep within the conscience that one cannot differentiate between what is right for them, and what is right according to the norms… What if one’s natural instincts are altered, by force of habit, as we see happening so many times… People want to do something but fear it for reasons best known to themselves…

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      1. That’s indeed scary, I don’t think it’s possible though. One might get conditioned to believe a set of so called truths or norms and act accordingly (curbing natural instincts as you put it) but deep down one is aware of these decisions to act against what one would have done given a free hand or a more primitive setup.

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      1. Personally, I find it beyond my ability to define or describe, every time I try it seems to point to it, but not effectively express the experience. I would say it’s is personal and unique and you have put it nicely here

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  8. Thank you Sadah 😊 I did check your site but perhaps because I blog from the phone, I couldn’t register… I’ll post my content as soon as it works. Please bear with me. Really touched 🌼

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  9. well said, I’ve finally realized that my conscience, or inner voice, is a jerk and I should not take it so seriously. If we could just laugh at ourselves a little more and maybe not worry so much about how we identify and within which sub category in pop culture we belong, then we could know some kind of freedom. Thanks for the follow, I look forward to reading more from you.

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  10. This is one of them ugly truth post. You have written it eloquently and set the reader up. You posed questions then guided us into the persuasion that we are not free or ponder such. However, a society that has been bombarded with images, even before we could spell our name. We have yet to be told and constantly reminded that we are enough. A society that doesn’t function in the material world is insane. The question is can I be free of the influence that I am unaware of. Remember, you have no major knowledge of your life let’s say between the age of conception to maybe 5. What type of information was given to us? What did we witness? What was implanted in us, without question? Thus brings the struggle and the desire to break out and be free . I better stop! There is too much to this topic and what you posted for us to feast upon. I love it and with each day, I want to live free as my understanding will allow me. Freedom of the kind you refer to is an individual journey that cross others on their journey. If one is not able to judge the other nor cause the other any harm…blow the trumpet and sing the victory song.

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    1. You certainly have a way with words my friend. A powerful way. Your piece impacts, inspires and offers insight… Once again, in quote-worthy lines you explain your take on this… I’m in awe and gratitude for such a wonderful reader and writer as you! Thank-you so much 🌼

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  11. Isha,
    Our behavioral structure flattened onto a page and exposed by your thought-provoking, ex-cellent blog, calling to be published by some of the influential big names.
    Is it not that we are all well aware of this ‘superficiality’ going on all around us?
    PC, political correctness, this ugly phenomenon, obviates the truth and is distorting society. Unnatural behavior is governing it.
    My journey, looking back, has been to compose my own world applying what I learned living in it.
    Nature, minimal interference, — feeding my being with a different diet both spiritually and physically.
    Thank you also for visiting my blog at https://nothingcluelesslost.com

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  12. I think the problem lies in our culture. As I read in a book called ‘Tuesdays with Morrie ‘. In it the author says that we must choose what we think is right from our culture and must try and create our own mini culture for us which will give us the freedom to do what we think is right, rather than just following the laid down rules.
    Honest post. 😊😊👌👌

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  13. Isha, Thank you for this post, and thank you too, for “liking” a couple of my comic drawings. I’m of the same mind as you – let me put it like this: we are all heavily conditioned to believe and act in certain ways that are not natural to us; in effect we have been “colonized” by an invading culture. But the natural is still there and can be accessed. This is true “brainwashing” – washing the crap out of our contaminated minds. The conditioning is like a rogue software, a malware. Anyway, my blog is based on the idea that one of the rogue softwares is THINKING itself; stop thinking, meditate, and just BE. Breathe – look around. Stop. Like your drawing, too. 🙂 Joe

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